Choral Potpourri/Choral Ethics: Choral Ethics for This Time

“My sorrow, when she’s here with me, thinks these dark days of autumn rain are beautiful as days can be; she loves the bare, the withered tree; she walks the sodden pasture lane.” Robert Frost

 Today’s Choral Ethics blog is a revisited blog from last fall.

During the tough times we are going through with the COVID-19 Pandemic, self-reflection seems like a good idea. Today I am blogging a bit of what I’ve learned about Choral Ethics.

I have been writing about Choral Ethics for six years now and have heard many “interesting” stories as well as made some dear friends in the process. I have listened in disbelief to folks seemingly too gullible for their own good and tried not to shriek when they tell me the predictable end of their stories. I have scolded those who know better who did NOT do better but somehow want me to absolve them. I have been amazed by the goodness and kindness of well-respected choral folk who DO NOT HAVE TO BE good and kind and yet, are. I have laughed with, cried with, and commiserated with many, all in the name of Choral Ethics. As I think about the last six years, one thing stands out in perfect clarity when it comes to Choral Ethics; we all want to believe the best of people and are hurt and confused when confronted by the worst. Often, typical Choral Ethics problems stem from a lack of communication or misinformation or unrealistic expectations or a lack of morals on someone’s part.

There are the “legend in their own minds” conductors who create havoc in rehearsal and out. These are the self-proclaimed geniuses and know-it-alls who are impatient with everyone with which they must work. They give the impression they feel they are being expected to work beneath their talent and let you know it; Boy-Howdy, do they! I get many, many emails from former and present choristers of these directors, wanting to know “what’s up with this guy?” You would be surprised how many emails (over 30) I’ve received over the years about ONE DIRECTOR. He retired a few years ago and one of his singers told me she threw a party!

I am contacted by people who cannot believe colleagues’ nerve or chutzpah or whatever you want to call it. Back-stabbing, undermining, and talking smack about others; these are the toads of our profession. What to do when you are confronted by gossip about yourself? How do you handle your singers being lured away? Why is another choral person questioning your education and your ability and your program and your choir? I tell the folks there are no easy solutions, other than to take the high road. And I promise eventually they’ll be vindicated because I believe in Karma.

I hear plenty of complaints about singers and accompanists, though the accompanists complaining about directors might outnumber the reverse! Directors complain about their boards (or clergy or department chair) not understanding how a chorus/choir works or what is possible with what, and who, they must work with. Unrealistic expectations on the part of those not directly involved with rehearsals in preparations for concerts or worship services cause hard feelings for everyone. What to do?

We are daily bombarded with “hacks” about how to make everything in our lives “better” and it is true in the choral world as well. I have had quite a few people contact me through the years with questions about other’s motives in “helping” them and their programs. Is it right to trust your “gut” they wonder, especially if something sounds too good? Do they trust what they believe to be true? Or do they go with what they are being told is so much better than anything they’ve done in the past; look, see how many other people are doing it? The common thread with almost all of these folks is this; they do not trust their own instincts any longer.

In this turbulent and transition time, I think it is more important than ever to stick with what we believe and stay true to our morals and core values. Remember Shakespeare’s Hamlet, Act 1, Scene 3, Polonius: “This above all: to thine own self be true?” I don’t mean to imply never to try something new or not attempt something which makes you slightly uncomfortable. I do mean this; if something feels morally or ethically wrong or too easy to be right, think twice.

Got a Choral Ethics Dilemma? Email me at: with “Choral Ethics” in the subject line.

Until next week, be well and be safe.

I am not able to take my Choral Ethics Blogs to my chamber choir’s Facebook page today. Hope to see you again next week!