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Choral Potpourri/Choral Ethics: Letters (emails), We Get Letters (emails)

January 13, 2022 by Marie Grass Amenta 2 Comments

“Letters are among the most significant memorial a person can leave behind them.” Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

It’s been a while since I shared correspondence from Ye Olde Choral Ethics Mailbag (Inbox) with you. Today I’d like to share letters from two ChoralNetters with similar problems. And as you can guess, these two folks are not the only ones who’ve had to deal with these “new normal” problems.

Robin* tells me, after in-person learning this past fall, her district is going back to remote learning until the beginning of March. She’s not especially happy about it but understands the wisdom, with the Omicron variant running rampant in their community.

Some parents in her choral parents’ group are definitely NOT happy about it. A few are trying to force her to hold in-person rehearsals at a local church. After speaking with her department chair (who is also struggling with remote versus in-person rehearsals), it seems having one rehearsal per week in-person, not on school property or during the school day, would be acceptable. The only problem is the parents want it every day and during the school day. Her department chair is understanding BUT has made it clear if she does what her choral parents want, his hands are tied. Robin feels her job is on the line if she chooses to go along with the parents.

Robin has explained over and over once a week in-person rehearsal, not during the school day, is as good as she can do for right now. If things improve, COVID-wise, it may change. She thinks remote sectionals during the school day, then an in-person rehearsal once a week will work very well. There does not seem to be any way their usual March concert will happen, but a late April/early May concert certainly is possible. And this strategy will be helpful toward that purpose.

Her gut tells her to do what her department chair suggests and not be swayed by the parents. The parents might be angry, but everyone is angry right now.

Robert* had remote rehearsals for his community chorus, with parking lot concerts, almost from the beginning of the COVID nightmare. It was not up to their usual standards, but it was something and something is better than nothing as far as he’s concerned.

During the fall, they were able to have in-person rehearsals and a nice winter concert in early December. The December concert was almost back to their usual level of performance and the Board was satisfied. Or so Robert thought.

The first Board meeting of the year was last week, and Robert was chastised for the quality of that December concert. He tried to explain, after more than a year of patched together rehearsals and performances in unfamiliar and frankly, crazy venues, the singers were getting used to singing together in-person again. As the music professional, he told them it was going to take a while for the chorus to get back to normal, plus they were singing in masks. And no one has sung in masks like this before.

The Board wants to take a vote amongst the chorus’s singers about what to do if they have another lock-down. Robert thinks they should do what they did before, since he still believes “something is better than nothing.” The Board thinks they have a reputation to uphold and to do nothing might be better this time. Robert’s gut to telling him to get out of there!

My solution for both situations is the same; trust your gut. How many times have I said that here on ChoralNet? Many times, I assure you. Your gut, that little voice inside you, almost never leads you astray. But some of you forget to trust yourself because it seems too easy. “Too easy” is simple and you don’t want simple, you want something to agonize over because it somehow seems more correct. With all the difficulties in the world right now, go with simple, you’ll be happier.

If you have a Choral Ethics dilemma, you can always email me: with Choral Ethics in the subject line.

Until next week, be well and be safe.

*Name Withheld

 

 

 

Filed Under: Choral Culture, Choral Ethics, Choral Potpourri, Difficult Times, Leadership, pandemic, Self Care, The Choral Life

Choral Potpourri/Choral Ethics: Another New Year

January 6, 2022 by Marie Grass Amenta 2 Comments

“Be at war with your vices, at peace with your neighbors, and let every new year find you a better man.” Benjamin Franklin

I hated 2021. It wasn’t good for our country, no matter which side of the aisle you are on. It wasn’t good for my family. Or for our profession, for that matter, though most of us were forced to be more creative than we ever have been and that’s something positive, I guess.

Yes, some good things happened here in the south suburbs of Chicago, such as re-doing our kitchen and being able to finally have rehearsals and a concert cycle—in person– with my chamber choir. 2021 was especially difficult for us as one of my sons struggled with the mental health issues he’s struggled with since he was a senior in high school. To give him some privacy, I won’t use his name.

The Pandemic and COVID-19 issues have not been good for anyone, much less for those who struggle with mental health problems, but we began 2021 hopeful. My son decided he would finally apply for an advanced degree in Sacred Music which he had to postpone for over a year due to COVID. He would take several placement exams, create a concert series for his church job, write for a local church musician’s newsletter, and was chosen to be a leader in another sacred music organization. He knew he was overqualified for the church job he had had for almost ten years but decided to stick it out until he moved on for his education. It sounded like a good solid plan, and he seemed confident it would work. But my son’s mental health problems intensified during the year.

As the year progressed things seemed to get better, then got worse. There were some improvements in his situation, his plans were coming to fruition, but he seemed very stressed and canceled a few things, very much unlike him.  Suddenly, things got worse, much worse. Right before Thanksgiving, there was a difficult situation in his parish and clergy didn’t seem to be taking it seriously. That was what pushed him over the edge. We almost lost him both literally and figuratively. It’s too difficult for me to recount what happened here but trust me, it was awful.

He’s home and healing, with a new physician and a new outlook. It was difficult for a few weeks; we had some backsliding and now things are becoming more stable. We are hopeful 2022 will be good for him to begin anew.

I may, or may not, write further about my own son’s struggle during this year but I WILL be writing about a few ChoralNetters mental health struggles during the Pandemic. The Pandemic has not been good for anyone’s mental health. Artists of all types seem to have a higher prevalence of mental health challenges and we must be aware and be kind to help them get through these challenging times.

Until next week, be well and be safe. And Happy New Year too.

 

 

 

 

 

Filed Under: Choral Ethics, Choral Potpourri, Difficult Times, pandemic, Self Care

Choral Potpourri/Choral Ethics: Ring Out the Old, Ring In the New

December 30, 2021 by Marie Grass Amenta Leave a Comment

“Ring out the false, ring in the true.” Alfred Lord Tennyson

 For the month of December, I’m rerunning some Choral Ethics blogs from years past with a few modifications where needed. Two of my MOST REQUESTED December Blogs will be making their yearly appearances. Happy December! ~MLGA

Happy New Year, ChoralNetters! In two days, it will be 2022, can you believe it? This year has dragged on and on with something new—and crazy—often happening daily.

How are things going for you? Do you feel there is there light at the end of the tunnel? Are you struggling? How is your choir? Were things better or worse for you this past holiday season? How is your mental health? Do you need to take some time for self-care?

Like many of you, I’ve struggled again this holiday season. I haven’t been exactly sad but more melancholy-like than anything else. I know things are getting better and being able to present a concert in November with my chamber choir helped, but I still struggle.

Today’s epigram (and title) is taken from Lord Tennyson’s poem, “Ring Out, Wild Bells,” and forms part of “In Memoriam,” his elegy to Arthur Henry Hallam, his sister’s fiancé who died at age 22. Most appropriate again this year, his poem speaks of leaving the past and destructive beliefs behind, looking toward the future for healing and renewal. A lovely image to begin a New Year and especially THIS NEW YEAR!

To begin my New Year, I plan more study of new repertoire, studying and practicing piano and voice to improve my musicianship and I look forward to being able to attend IN PERSON an ACDA Regional conference. What do YOU plan to do as we begin this New Year?

Until next YEAR, be well and be safe.

I am not able to take my Choral Ethics Blogs to my chamber choir’s Facebook page today. Hope to see you again next week!

Filed Under: Choral Ethics, Choral Potpourri, Difficult Times, pandemic, Self Care, The Choral Life

Choral Potpourri/Choral Ethics: This Is Christmas

December 23, 2021 by Marie Grass Amenta Leave a Comment

“At Christmas play and make good cheer, for Christmas comes but once a year.” Thomas Tusser

 For the month of December, I’m rerunning some Choral Ethics blogs from years past with a few modifications where needed. Two of my MOST REQUESTED December Blogs will be making their yearly appearances. Happy December! ~MLGA

Today is the day before Christmas Eve. Right now, it seems to be better than it was last year. We are still required to wear MASKS in public and I have to share with you, wearing singing masks is something I may never get used to—who knew my face could sweat like that? But I will wear a mask no matter how uncomfortable I feel, until we get the “all clear” to do otherwise.

This is Christmas, Christmas 2021, and while things ARE better and we ARE approaching more “normal,” it’s still different from what we are used to.

Church musicians, I feel for you. Most of you are probably able to worship in your sanctuary, with some restrictions, such as social distancing and those above-mentioned singing masks. Very few of you will be doing exactly what you usually do and for that, I am so very sorry. I’m sure it was difficult to make the decisions you had to make but last year’s Advent and Christmas experience should have helped inform how you handled things this year. I hope you were able to feel good about your decisions.

I’m willing to guess those of you who direct school choruses were able to have holiday concerts, with restrictions. Were you able to figure out the best way for you to do so in your present situation? I hope you were able to sing your concert IN-PERSON with your students, and their parents were grateful for all your hard work.

Community chorus directors were probably able to have a holiday concert this very strange year, again with restrictions. We are all doing the best we can, and I hope you know you are doing everything you can possibly do; please don’t second guess yourself.

It’s another Holiday Season of phrases like “doing the best we can” and “wish we could…….” and “how are you holding up” as part of our daily conversations. But we are “doing the best we can” and we do “wish we could….” and we are “holding up as well as can be expected” and that’s fine. With our usual expectations again thrown to the wind, perhaps it’s time to modify and accept and just get on with it with as little drama as possible.

There is some hope for the New Year as things begin to really open up, mandates are lifted, and we can go about the business of making music nearer to normal.

I wish you a Merry Christmas this year, most enthusiastically. And most importantly I will wish you Comfort (some small comfort) and Joy (some small joy) in your life. It is the small things, I’ve learned in the last year and a half, that are the most important.

Until next week, be well and be safe!

I am not able to take my Choral Ethics Blogs to my chamber choir’s Facebook page today. Hope to see you again next week!

 

Filed Under: Choral Culture, Choral Ethics, Choral Potpourri, pandemic, Self Care, The Choral Life

Choral Potpourri/Choral Ethics: Let There Be Peace on Earth

December 16, 2021 by Marie Grass Amenta Leave a Comment

“This will be our reply to violence: to make music more intensely, more beautifully, more devotedly than ever before.” Leonard Bernstein

 For the month of December, I’m rerunning some Choral Ethics blogs from years past with a few modifications where needed. Two of my MOST REQUESTED December Blogs will be making their yearly appearances, including today’s. Happy December! ~MLGA

Have you ever noticed the best holiday stories portray some sort of dream? From the ballet, “The Nutcracker” to all of the many incarnations of Dickens, “A Christmas Carol” someone is always sleeping and having a dream. There is also the ‘alternate universe’ version of that dream in holiday movies such as “It’s A Wonderful Life,” giving a slightly different spin to the idea. When the main characters wake up or get back to their own universe, all their holiday hopes and wishes seem to have come true. Problems are solved and they are happier. Even Clement Moore’s “A Visit From St. Nicholas” has a ‘long winter’s nap’ as part of the action. When we were children, we liked to think miraculous things can happen when we sleep and dream. Unfortunately, as adults, we know that isn’t possible.

But I have a dream anyway. It’s not a holiday dream but one for our profession. I dream we, as choral musicians, will become agents of change for good in our communities and in our world. We will bring together people of all ages. And we will accept all folks, no matter who they are and what they believe, into our choirs. If you can sing what we need you to sing, you are in our choirs, no matter the color of your skin or whom you love or what you look like.

I dream choirs of all sorts of singers are welcomed and respected into our choral community. Instead of saying, “there’s an app for that,” we will say, “there’s a choir for that” when someone asks us if their particular need is represented in a choir, because there will be a choir. I dream we will be proud those with special needs, adults or children, are welcomed into local choirs and encourage them if we are able.

Choirs of senior citizens as well as children will sing together, bringing together experience and enthusiasm. There will be choirs in the workplace, encouraging fellowship and teambuilding by singing together. There will be Hospice choirs and prison choirs and choirs for those affected by cancer or Alzheimer’s. Singing will unite us. Perhaps, when we sing with someone who is different from us, we will understand a little bit more about them. And we won’t be afraid of their differences because we will know them because we sing with them. In my dream, there will be choirs to comfort those touched by violence. And we will do our best to be an agent for peace in our own communities and beyond.

There was a song when I was growing up that was very popular. I sang it as a solo, in my youth choir at church, in my school chorus and caroling with a church youth group. We also sang it at the end of every Christmas pageant at church for several years. I heard it not too long ago shopping at the grocery store, on their piped in music. It was Vince Gill’s version and the lyrics have kept running through my head ever since.

One line in particular from the song strikes me as quite appropriate for today’s blog: “let there be Peace on Earth, and let it begin with me.” If we want change, it must begin with us. If we want acceptance, we must do it. If we see injustice, we must step up to make it right. Peace and kindness and compassion must begin with us. There is no need to wait until someone else does what we believe to be right. We can make the world a better place by taking that first, small step. My dream can be a reality if I begin it. And so, I do.

Sing this holiday season with your choirs and your families and your friends. Let differences go and reach for the common, shared values you do have together. Make Peace with those you love as well as those you don’t love. Cherish the old songs and laugh at the silly songs. Let the music bring you together. And let it begin with you.

I wish Peace for you during the coming week and as we head toward the New Year. And much love.

Until next week, be well and be safe!

I am not able to take my Choral Ethics Blogs to my chamber choir’s Facebook page today. Hope to see you again next week!

 

Filed Under: Choral Culture, Choral Ethics, Choral Potpourri, Difficult Times, Leadership, Others, pandemic, Self Care, The Choral Life

Choral Potpourri/Choral Ethics: Last Man Standing

December 9, 2021 by Marie Grass Amenta Leave a Comment

“If you think you can do better, then do better. Don’t compete with anyone; just yourself.” Bob Fosse

For the month of December, I’m rerunning some Choral Ethics blogs from years past with a few modifications where needed. Two of my MOST REQUESTED December Blogs will be making their yearly appearances. Happy December! ~MLGA

 Tuesday was my father’s 94th birthday. He is still with us, still as sharp as a tack, still very independent and still telling us what to do. We know we are LUCKY to have him, and his wisdom, still with us.

I’ve learned a lot about this whole “artistic business;” morality and even the basis for my Choral Ethics project–from my Dad, Charles Grass. A dancer of some note; Dad did it all. He played Vaudeville and Broadway, danced and taught and choreographed. He was also an opera stage director. In fact, Dad met Mom during a run of the operetta, “The Bohemian Girl;” Dad was the stage director and Mom played the lead, Arline. Mom had the most beautiful coloratura soprano voice and Dad said there was something special about her. They were together until a few weeks before their 60th wedding anniversary; we lost her after a valiant 13 year battle with colon cancer. He misses his friends and Mom very much but he is healthy (or as healthy as someone 94 can be) and loves to reminisce about his life in dance.

Dad is the last of his generation of dancers and is, quite literally, the Last Man Standing. Chicago Dance Royalty, he has known or has worked with every dancer of note coming from Our Town, starting with his own Vaudeville partner, Bob Fosse (they were known as “The Riff Brothers”). Bob Fosse and Dad were as close as brothers—and billed as such—beginning their act together when they were about eight years old. Bob was more athletic and Dad was more balletic; together they were something special. Dad is regularly interviewed for books and specials about Bob. He tries to make sure they know he was really just a nice boy from Chicago, despite what they might have been led to believe.  Bob would have also been 94 this year; they were six months apart, Bob’s birthday being in June

Dad was Ruth Page’s (a big deal, innovative choreographer of the mid-20th century) assistant and went to Broadway with her bio-musical of Tchaikovsky, “Music in My Heart.” His Chicago dancer friends were eclectic; from Jazz great Gus Giordano, smooth Tommy Sutton (the Tap Expert from the South Side) and “that young kid” Lou Conte (the founder of Hubbard Street, who is still with us). He knew Nijinsky’s sister, Bronislava Nijinka, and danced on an episode of The Colgate Comedy Hour. One of his teachers, Jon Petrie, was a student of Petipa, the original choreographer of “The Nutcracker;” Dad danced it many times, the Trepak being his specialty. He had friends in all the major ballet companies in the United States, as well as on Broadway. The daughter of one of his friends (Lorraine Henner, the daughter was Marilou Henner) was in the original production of “Grease;” Dad knew everybody.

Growing up, wisdom from his Show Biz experiences was passed on to his six kids, whether we liked it or not, in all aspects—even the non-show biz parts—of our lives. Our family was steeped in these traditions but being kids, we didn’t know where they came from. He told us to always be on time, which meant ten minutes early or he would consider you late—this was especially useful to know during those teenage curfew years! He would cajole us to do something different, something no one else was doing or to put our own personal stamp on something ordinary. We were expected to practice, and always be prepared for our music, dance and school lessons. He told us we had to be clean and well-groomed when we left the house, since how we presented ourselves would reflect on him and our mother. And mini-skirts? Dad was not a fan; I can still hear him yelling, “You’re not leaving the house in that!” to my sisters and me as we tried to sneak out of the house. Dad believed in dressing the part, so while our friends may have been allowed to wear blue jeans to church, we were not.

Dad was a big believer in the “Show Must Go On” philosophy; he would tell us he didn’t care if we broke a nail or our dog died or we weren’t feeling it, we had to suck it up and go on. He wanted us to be real Troopers; there was no higher compliment than “she was a real Trooper” when we persevered through adversity. While he certainly had artistic integrity, he would remind us, if we did the work, we should cash the check.

Dad was considered a “teacher’s teacher” and master pedagogue, teaching master classes and adjudicating around the country until about 2000. He always considered himself to be a tap dancer first, but was a wonderful Ballet dancer, specializing in Character dance (as did I). When things get back to “normal,” Dad will be coaching the Riff Brother’s routine to two wonderful dancers, and we are thrilled for him!

Whatever I do, I know Dad’s influence on my attitudes about my art and own artistry began before I was born. Happy birthday, Daddy…WE LOVE YOU!

Until next week, be well and be safe!

I am not able to take my Choral Ethics Blogs to my chamber choir’s Facebook page today. Hope to see you again next week!

 

Filed Under: A Family of Artists, Choral Ethics, Choral Potpourri

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